I used to have the seem feeling of helplessness, panic, something really bad happened when I started with tubes. After several incidents of tube giving out or being fried before I learned how to zero bias before swapping tubes I gradually learned that tubes are pretty easy to deal with, and are usually simple and reliable. If you accept that tubes are commodity parts that will eventually go bad, like lihgtbulbs then you can prepare and to be frustrated when they eventually go. Keeping spares around, even if not the greatest quality is a good idea to keep the music flowing, and don't forget the fuses. Most well designed tube equipment has adequate fuse protection to prevent any real damage and allo you to fix most everything yourself. This is very handy compared to shipping an amp away for repair. It is definitely scray when a tube blows, especially when you are near the amp, but with a little knowledge most tube blowups can be avoided, and gradual wear and noise is the only inconvenience, plus the occasional fuse.
Glad it is all better now Mike